Nothing is truer than the idea that things do not change, people do. In a sharehouse, people are constantly evolving and as they evolve, their choices and changes shape their lives and their actions. We have had many people come and go from the sharehouse. It is quite natural that the arrangement of sharing public spaces with strangers or friends is good during a certain period of your life but eventually something will happen that will propel people to move out and into another possibly private space. After people leave, they often develop new lifestyles and meet new people, make new cliques and depending on where they move to, visiting or attending events at the sharehouse might be a serious challenge or might not have any appeal for them at all as the bonds they had previously formed feels awkward and pallid. Sometime last year, a housemate and I had talks about relationships as she was having a hard time finding someone who suit her personality and who she could settle down with on a long term basis. For a few months, she had dated someone but it had come to naught. In Japan, there is an age limit tied to eligibility for marriage and she waa past the accepted age and quite worried about her future. She desperately wanted to get married and start a family. Quite soon after our talk, I was happy to learn that she had met someone new and things seemed to be going very well. A few months later she said that she was leaving the house to move in with her boyfriend asshe had been spending most of her time there anyway. Although I was a bit shocked, I have learnt that when it comes to relationships, time is not a deciding factor. After twenty years people can separate so whether it is a long time or short, if it works, it works. This news came in February this year. I expected that would be the last time I would ever hear from her or see her again but I was surprised when she made a visit to the sharehouse last month to spend time with whoever could make it. I was not one of the persons who was available during her visit but she did message me separately and ask me to invite people from the sharehouse out for dinner in Ichigao. We met last week for Indian cuisine at one of our favourite restaurants in the area and had a great time catching up. She had great news to share. She had gotten married the month before! Life certainly does surprise you.
I'm like a chihuahua. Small but fierce and full of energy. I'm generally a positive person and try to make the best of each day.